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How can I become okay with my boyfriend going to strip clubs?
I am really not okay with my boyfriend going to strip clubs, but I'm trying to be okay with it.I'm not afraid that he is going to go and cheat on me-but I really have a problem with the objectification of women there.I have been objectified all of my life, and I hate that my boyfriend would go there and support that.True, these women are not being forced into it, and I believe that it is possible for them to be perfectly healthy & confident(although unfortunately this isn't the majority of cases).I can't help but feel that by him going he is disrespecting MY sexuality as well. Maybe it is jealousy, but it doesn't feel like it-I feel so hurt when he goes.His attitude is that he's not the 'type' to be right up at the stage, and he only goes once in a while, so I should just 'get over it'.I just don't get why he needs to go-if he's not all that interested in the women, as he claims, then why not just go to a bar, or come home to me?Would it help if I go with him once to understand it?
I just asked a similar question a few days ago and from the awesome answers I got, I realized that number 1 - it's okay for him to go to strip clubs if I go with him to check it out. number 2- i provide enough entertainment for him that he doesn't even have the urge to go out to one.
he most likely will not cheat on you and wants you to understand him. so ask him to come along. he should not have a problem with it. if he does have a problem with it, then you shuld be concenered. as long as he doesn't choose going to strip clubs over spending time with you. if you really love him that's the best you can do... be understanding and hope he understands your feelings too. at least if you go, yuou will be more comfortable about it.
i also agree that strip clubs portray women in a negative light, but what can you do? just have a talk with your bf about how you feel about it & say you're willing to try and understand as long as he tries to underestand you as well.
good luck & check out my similar question for extra feedback =)
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